Of the many marriage resource options available today, finding the one most appropriate for your relationship may seem a daunting task, we would like to help. First we suggest that you look to our Recommended Resources pages. You will find a lot of great resources there with a detailed synopsis of the resource and an account of the credentials of the author. The Second step we suggest is, that you get The discovery Game, play, and read through The discovery Game booklet together. Next we suggest that you talk to your pastor. If your marriage is going along great your pastor or marriage minister will likely have some exceptional insights to help your relationship continue to flourish.
If your relationship is struggling, your pastor will likely be of great help. Most pastors have a significant breadth of experience counseling, and will likely have a great deal of wisdom to offer concerning your marital difficulties. Sometimes the problems in the relationship stem from something deeper. In these situations, a good Christian Marriage and Family Therapist can be of immeasurable benefit. These professionals often have, not only the wisdom of a pastor but the training of a doctor. Because of their training, the Christian Marriage and Family Therapist can often see through external issues to the heart of a complex problem much quicker than a pastor.
That said, we recommend that you do not skip straight to the Marriage and Family Therapist as all of the above-prescribed steps will be of considerable help on their own and will create a foundation from which your relationship can prosper. We also caution strongly against seeing a therapist who is not a Christian and decidedly Christian in his methodology.
If you have a happy marriage now, rejoice in that blessing, and take steps to ensure that it stays that way. No one would put fuel in a car and then expect to drive around for the next ten years without refueling. Your relationship will need routine refueling. You have probably heard: marriage takes effort and requires work. But who says that work can’t be fun and exciting. The discovery Game is a fantastic way, with no preparation, to refuel your relationship. But anything you and your spouse can do, that is fun for both of you, that allows for communication, especially in an exciting atmosphere, will serve well as a method of recharging your marriage.
Some of you might think that there is nothing both you and your spouse enjoy doing. I doubt that is true. It may be that your favorite things are not the favorite things of your spouse. But it’s not the activity that is important. With a willingness to compromise, you will find that there are things you and your spouse will enjoy doing together. For example: of the many couples that have played The discovery Game, occasionally we find a husband, or a wife, or both a husband and wife that dislikes playing games. Yet, in every case where the couple played anyway, they had a great time, learned things about each other, and as a result of that time together, came away a happier couple with a stronger marriage!
