You may have heard of the bestselling book, The Five Love Languages. This book, written by Gary Chapman has been on the New York Times Bestseller list for over 10 years! In the book, Chapman asserts that we all have one or more of five love languages— ways in which we give and receive love—and that, the way to deepen your relationship is to love your spouse, not in accordance with your own love language, which is the typical approach, but instead, to love your spouse via the language in which he or she actually receives love. In “The discovery Game Booklet”, (included with the game) we reference and recommend The Five Love Languages. But as good as the book is, it has a weakness common to all books of this type: it requires you to read, interpret, grasp, incorporate and implement a 200+ page book and, get your spouse to cooperate.
This is not in any way meant to discourage you from purchasing this, or any other book (readers are leaders). We strongly endorse the book! But we also recommend another approach to invigorating and/or healing your relationship. Remember what it felt like when you were first falling in love? You didn’t need to read about it. You didn’t need to carefully assess and regurgitate ways of interacting which might be profitable to your relationship. You just interacted naturally. The discovery Game was designed to help renew and rekindle your relationship by facilitating interaction in exactly this way!